As seen today on Moms Everyday NBC 15 Madison…here is a recap of the segment and even more ideas to help those mommas bringing home multiples!
I have two sets of twins. They are now 4 and 2. The days are getting a little easier but I remember bringing home the big boys like it was yesterday and what the heck am I gonna do!??!? I am a new mom and I have TWO babies!
ASK FOR HELP- I know you hear it all the time but for reals ASK? Plan ahead to have someone stay with you for the first few weeks. To make your dinners or help with feeding or to just be there. I would plan on having your partner take off work for a few weeks if possible or having a family member or a good friend there. I remember I wanted no one there to help me- so I thought- but I was just trying to prove a point..dont do that. Just ask for help- I ended up asking and it was the best thing I could have done!
Don’t feel bad if you have to prop a bottle people! Just make sure you are right there. Propping bottles was my life. You can judge me or not but I needed to get them both fed at the same time and so I would alternate at burp time. I would hold one baby and feed and have the other one in his seat with a bottle propped and alternate.
SET A SCHEDULE. I know I for sure was one who said schedules were BS but the only BS was me not getting ANY SLEEP AT ALL. It tried to do it all at night because Kevin had to work and I wanted him to get his rest. I was EXHAUSTED to say the least. What I mean by setting a schedule is this…wake a baby. Yes, I mean wake a sleeping baby. I know , I know – my grandma would kill me too for saying this but it will help you in the long run. When one is eating YOU MUST feed the other one. Eventually they will sync up and will sleep at the same time. My first set I did not do this and there was a baby awake ALL. THE. TIME.
Don’t be afraid to let the baby cry. It is OKAY for a baby to cry. It is good for their lungs. You cant get to everything right away so let that stress go of your life. If the baby starts crying finish what you are doing and then you will get to him or her. If your changing one baby and the other baby is just a wailing it is OK. Just let him scream for a bit. He will be ok, I promise!
Don’t ever feel guilty for not being a perfect parent. None of us are- we are all just in survival mode-all of us. If everyone is fed and not dirty you are golden- that means you too!
All the best to you and your growing family!